Dear Margo: My husband is an only child in his late 30s. My father-in-law is terribly selfish. We live several states away, and because he’s the only blood relative left, my spouse does his best to keep in touch with his father. It is rarely reciprocated. Over the past several years, his father has had health issues, but we are never notified until a couple of days into a hospitalization or after he has undergone a procedure. This is not a protective act so his child will not worry about him. It is purely selfish. He tells us they were ”busy” or makes up some excuse. This upsets my husband because he wants to be kept in the loop.