Dear Annie: I have been friends with ”Laura” since my husband and I moved here 22 years ago. She is financially better off than I am (and flaunts it), but it never bothered me until she decided we should exchange Christmas gifts a few years back. Laura can be very judgmental, and finding the right present for her was difficult. Last year, she started a baking business, so I bought her a cupcake holder for Christmas. However, she had a Christmas party a few days before the actual holiday, so instead of giving her the holder, I gave her a hostess gift of a cookbook, intending to give her the cupcake holder at our personal gift exchange. The day after her party, she called and told me off. She said my presents were ”cheap.” I tried to explain about the hostess gift, but she would hear none of it.