Dear Annie: ”John” and I have been married for 15 years. He is a wonderful person and a great father to our two young girls. Our relationship is fine on the surface, but it’s emotionally empty. There is little intimacy, which has been an issue throughout our marriage. It manifests itself periodically in arguments that never seem to get resolved. John refuses to go to counseling. He wonders why I cannot ”just be happy,” because from his perspective, everything is fine. I have told him clearly that I need more attention and affection, but I have come to the realization that he is ”just not that into me.”