Dear Margo: My mother just passed away, and I am the eldest of three brothers. For some odd reason, we don’t communicate often due to how our family was structured. I am not a perfect person, though I have tried to seek redemption for my past mistakes. I am the one, however, who is still perceived as having mental issues and no concept of the “real world.” Everyone is entitled to perceive and interpret the world as they will, but it seems that once people have made up their minds, they only see what they want to see. I am finding that you can’t restructure a family or avoid dysfunctional arguments.