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    Etiquette At Work

    Better boss relations can start with you

    This column often examines ways bosses and managers can engage employees and establish a positive work environment. Similarly, employees can take steps to foster a positive relationship with a manager. Here are six tips for growing that relationship with your boss:

    Speak up and offer ideas. The idea street isn’t one way. You may come up with an idea your boss hasn’t had or a variation that adds value to an idea of hers. Contrary to popular belief, bosses will appreciate that you are thinking of the bigger picture.

    Be prepared for meetings. This not only means completing any assignments for the meeting on time, it also means gathering information and knowing what you are talking about.


    Ask for help when you need it. It sounds counter-intuitive because if you ask for help you’re implying you can’t get your work done. Unfortunately, if you don’t ask, the outcome is either not getting the work done or not doing it well.

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    Be a team player. Teams are here to stay. The success of the team depends on the team being a cohesive group rather than a bunch of individuals acting independently. Ultimately, the success of the team reflects directly on the boss. Being a team player ensures not only the team’s success but also provides a positive reflection on the boss.

    Show acceptance. Making decisions is a boss’s most crucial function and is also one of the most difficult. While your boss may ask for input before a decision is made, once it has been made, your acceptance and support of that decision is important.

    Do not undermine. This is one of the cardinal pieces of advice I offer for the boss-employee relationship. When you are frustrated with your boss, do not go behind a boss’s back or over his or her head. It rarely turns out well for the employee. Keep in mind that generally management has a positive view of the boss and is likely to stand behind her.

    The result: The boss wins, and you develop a negative reputation with your boss and your boss’s boss. Try to work with your boss to resolve the situation. And if that goes nowhere, remember that there are times when it is simply better to let go of a situation than to pursue it and undermine your own position.

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