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Love Letters

He’s great — but where’s the spark?

This relationship isn’t exactly the passionate fairy tale she expected

Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for over four years. We met in college and now live together. Like any long-term couple, we have been through ups and downs but have managed to work through it all. We share similar life values, money styles, parenting beliefs, and career ambitions. We are on the same page about having a family, how we want to raise our kids, and how we see our future going.

He is a wonderful person — funny and smart, hard-working, stable, kind, and totally committed to me. Whenever we talk about the future, he always says that he doesn’t care when we get married, but he wants to spend the rest of his life with me, so he’s ready whenever I am.

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