You can now read 10 articles in a month for free on Read as much as you want anywhere and anytime for just 99¢.

The Boston Globe


Love Letters

An old flame returns

Q. I’m a (very) single gal in her late 20s and I need some help dealing with an old flame who suddenly resurfaced in my life in an “interesting” way.

Years ago, when I was in college, I studied abroad. I had a blast, made friends that I’ll have for a lifetime, and learned a lot about myself in between a lot of sightseeing, partying, and flirting (I’m a sucker for accents). Early into my trip, I met “Hugh,” and I fell hard. Coming from a US college scene rife with hooking up and casual encounters, he took me on my first “real date,” and I’ll admit that I got attached way too quickly. He didn’t treat me very well, always flirting but never taking steps forward, which I realized after a few weeks. I dated others while I was studying there, but not anyone that I had liked as much as him. After my study ended, we kept in touch very sporadically, and I did wind up seeing him in passing once or twice when I flew back to visit on a few occasions. However, I haven’t seen him in at least six years.

Loading comments...

You have reached the limit of 10 free articles in a month

Stay informed with unlimited access to Boston’s trusted news source.

  • High-quality journalism from the region’s largest newsroom
  • Convenient access across all of your devices
  • Today’s Headlines daily newsletter
  • Subscriber-only access to exclusive offers, events, contests, eBooks, and more
  • Less than 25¢ a week