Q. I’m a (very) single gal in her late 20s and I need some help dealing with an old flame who suddenly resurfaced in my life in an “interesting” way.
Years ago, when I was in college, I studied abroad. I had a blast, made friends that I’ll have for a lifetime, and learned a lot about myself in between a lot of sightseeing, partying, and flirting (I’m a sucker for accents). Early into my trip, I met “Hugh,” and I fell hard. Coming from a US college scene rife with hooking up and casual encounters, he took me on my first “real date,” and I’ll admit that I got attached way too quickly. He didn’t treat me very well, always flirting but never taking steps forward, which I realized after a few weeks. I dated others while I was studying there, but not anyone that I had liked as much as him. After my study ended, we kept in touch very sporadically, and I did wind up seeing him in passing once or twice when I flew back to visit on a few occasions. However, I haven’t seen him in at least six years.