Q. My two-year marriage was fraught with infidelity on both sides. Five months ago I was finally able to tell my husband that I wasn’t happy and that we needed to move on from each other as amicably as possible. He grudgingly agreed to the divorce, and currently it’s pending in the court system. After our initial talk, displaying (yet more) poor judgment, my husband went to my family and disclosed all the sordid details he knew about my affairs, including the identity of my ongoing affair partner. My family was completely horrified and enraged. They cornered me in my home, screaming horrible things about me and my lover.
Over the course of the last few months, I gradually have patched things up with my family, although tension over the subject remains. They know I’m still seeing my affair partner (now boyfriend) but it’s become a don’t-ask-don’t-tell policy, with no mention of him or how I’m spending my weekends.