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Love Letters

Should she settle for what she has?

Q. Here’s my situation. I’m 37 and I’ve been dating a guy for three years. He’s 40. Early in the relationship, I found out he was seeing another girl and me at the same time. It wasn’t that big of a deal because I didn’t consider us exclusive at the time. However, I later found out that he continued to see the other girl even after telling me he just wanted to date me.

Needless to say, there have been lingering trust issues in the relationship. Obviously, not good. In addition to that, we have lived together for two years, and it hasn’t always been rosy. He drinks a lot, has some OCD issues, and can be pretty selfish sometimes.

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