Q.I am a woman in her mid-20s who has had one real relationship, and it was fairly abusive and terrible. It lasted for about two years and ended well over three years ago. Since then, I haven’t been worried about getting a boyfriend and have concentrated on making my own life better, and so far everything is going really well.
A little over two years ago, I met a guy I’ll refer to as Jake. I met Jake through some mutual friends, and he is gay. Jake is almost eight years older than me, and I immediately liked him because he would laugh at my terrible jokes and liked a lot of the same activities I liked. We exchanged contact information and started hanging out right after.