Health & wellness

Boston men rank No. 1 for expecting first-date sex

I was perusing my daughter’s latest copy of Glamour and found a disturbing dating survey that the magazine conducted of 8,000 singles nationwide in conjunction with Boston received the notorious distinction of ranking number one for men who expect to have sex on the first date. One out of eight men surveyed in Boston expected his date to hop into bed after a single dinner and a movie -- the highest ratio of any city.

“Boston suffers the distinction of being the city where women are unhappiest with their love lives,” Glamour reported in its April issue. “Why is Boston so rough? Packed with super-educated, career-minded women (hello, Harvard?), it’s also where the highest percentage of men expect sex on the first date.”

This is not a good mix, Rutgers anthropologist Helen Fisher, chief scientific advisor to, told Glamour. “You have a lot of stress among the women about that first date and the disappointment after.”


Fisher even recommended that women choose Washington, DC, over Boston if they have compelling job offers in both cities since nearly 87 percent of women in the Capitol report happy dating lives, with Philadelphia running a close second. Boston, on the other hand, took top ranking for women being unhappiest in their dating lives -- with more than 26 percent complaining about the dating scene.

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New York City doesn’t look like it’s any great shakes either: 14 percent of men there report spending five minutes or less getting ready for a date.

What I’m wondering, though, is what singles think of a new brand of condoms being promoted by Planned Parenthood of the Northwest. It comes packaged with a QR code that lets you announce through your mobile device where you were and with whom when you tore off that condom wrapper to be posted for all to see on

(Note to Boston men: I doubt this lack of discretion will cause you to improve your Glamour rankings.)

Planned Parenthood of the Northwest recently distributed 55,000 of these condoms across college campuses to promote safe sex. “We’re not encouraging you to have sex or not have sex,” reads a statement on the group’s website. “We’re just encouraging people to be safer in their activities. This site is intended to provide a visual representation that safe sex happens too.”

Deborah Kotz can be reached at Follow her on Twitter @debkotz2.