She might reorganize your cabinets. Or sweep into town with sweets and slip them to your kids like a drug pusher. Or maybe she just offers occasional parenting advice that goes straight to your sore spot. The unique relationship between mothers and daughters is emotionally loaded, and the stakes escalate when daughters become parents themselves, marking the ultimate transition from child to peer.
And as our parents live longer — at least one member of a baby boomer couple will turn 88, according to Social Security data — a functional relationship is crucial. After all, Mom might show up with candy for a long time. How to cope?