■ You must ask someone out in person (i.e., not in a text message, or on Facebook, Snapchat, etc.), and it must be someone you’ve never dated.
■ Arrange the date within three days of asking. Waiting longer creates unnecessary anxiety, invites drama, and sets the stage for unsolicited (or worse, solicited) opinions and advice.
■ This person must be someone who is a legitimate romantic interest (i.e., not just a friend). It does not have to be a person you’ve had a crush on for months or years . . . in fact, it probably shouldn’t be that person, since that might be a bit intense.
■ Have a definite and simple plan for the date. Do not ask the other person to decide what to do on the date. Having a straightforward and simple plan shows care, concern, and takes the pressure off.
■ Pay for the date yourself, without fuss.
■ The date should involve no physical interaction, with the possible exception of a friendly “A-frame” hug at the end.
■ The date may be daytime or nighttime, though daytime is preferable, but it is only a date if you two are alone. No group dating, third wheels, or “wingmen” allowed.
■ You must write a two-page reflection on how the date went, what it felt like to ask someone out, how you planned the date, how the conversation during the date went, etc. You may also include a brief description of your thoughts on dating compared with hooking up in college.