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Miss Conduct

Advice on, well, giving advice

Is it rude to offer your thoughts to your adult children? Plus, deciding how to present a cash gift.

> My husband and I have five children in their 40s. Sometimes when I see an article I think might be helpful, I e-mail it to them. My husband says it is wrong for me to give them any kind of advice, since they are adults and I can’t understand what their lives are like. I know they are very busy, and I do admire them. I just feel that I would like to help. Being retired, I have time that they don’t to peruse flyers and surf the Net. My husband complains that I act as if I know more than they do. But naturally, I do.

E.G. / Westford 

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