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A bridesmaid’s doubts

Is the bride diving into marriage too quickly? Plus, should a mom get her adult daughter to start writing thank you notes again?

> A friend just got engaged and asked me to be her bridesmaid. The fellow seems nice enough, but they have only dated five months. She has historically been sensitive about her lack of relationship experience and tends to low self-esteem. Should I do some gentle probing and give her space to express uncertainties if she has them?

J.Z. / Riverdale, Maryland

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