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Miss Conduct

Can you decline to remove your shoes?

And, advice on thank you notes.

> This evening my husband and I were asked to remove our shoes before entering our hosts’ home. To add insult to injury, the hostess put on flip-flops. Is it rude to refuse to remove one’s shoes? 

B.E. / Framingham

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