> I am a freshman in high school who carpools with a (most likely) oblivious adult. Often she will bring up one event or another that I was not invited to, which always makes me feel awkward. My mother raised me to believe that it was rude to bring up a social affair in front of people who were not invited. What should I say the next time?
S.B. / Boston
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I totally disagree about the girlfriend. This is a first cousin for God's sake. I'm sure they're not trying to push a relative stranger onto the guest list. i think you and they are being way too militant about this. Rules are made to be broken. Again, this is a close family member asking to bring his girlfriend to whom they obviously feel extremely close. Just because she doesn't yet have a date set doesn't mean they won't be a "couple" soon.
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The extended family had never met this girl and now they've broken up, of course. It turns out that the cousin had his doubts about bringing his girlfriend in the first place; he didn't want her to meet the whole family just yet, didn't want to send the wrong message to the girl. My sister-in-law ignored him and pushed to have her invited. They harassed us and the engaged couple all summer and enlisted the elder members of the family as well. Very unpleasant, but we finally gave in. Now, we regret that we did.
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