> I threw a surprise birthday for my partner at a local restaurant, planning everything from engraved invitations to the party favors to the open bar. Four months later, he still has not sent out thank you cards. I feel if people took the time to attend (I specified “no gifts”), they deserve a note of thanks. He feels no note is required. I feel I should write them — I’m embarrassed, but it is his responsibility.

E.B. / Watertown