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Miss Conduct

Advice on dealing with grandparents who play favorites

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> My mother is huffy and critical with my daughter but goes on and on about my son. He is 16 and easygoing; my daughter is 14 and more temperamental. For her birthday, my mother gave her a small pad of paper. Do I do anything? I have already worked with my daughter to understand that even if Grandma is mean to her, she needs to take the high road. My mother wasn’t like this when I was growing up. 

A.B. / Norwood

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