> A friend of mine says she is allergic to my two cats and refuses to come into my house. She also makes rude comments like “Maybe I’m allergic to you, too” and “Why don’t you shave your cats’ fur along with that fur on your upper lip.” I recently found out that she had dinner at the home of another friend with cats, with no problem. How do I stand up for myself, and how do I confront my friend about her lie?

B.H. / Wrentham