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Advice on getting out of a holiday trip

Avoiding a stressful trip to the significant other’s family. Plus, a wedding years in the distance.

> At what point in a relationship does it become de rigueur for a significant other to accede to being dragged along on a partner’s Christmas family visit that holds absolutely no independent charms and has the significant downsides of time off from my new job, super-expensive and crowded flights, and a newborn in the host family? I can’t counter with family obligations of my own because I’m not from a Christian culture. I don’t object to the holiday — but I’d much rather spend it in relaxing, frugal peace and quiet!

S.H. / Denver

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