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Do I have to go to every birthday party?

Plus, advice on gender bias . . . against men.

I am a great-aunt to multiple kids. There is a birthday party every couple of months for one of them, and they each have a party every year. We did not have this growing up. Contributing food and wine and a present and counting gas, it all usually comes to about $50. I don’t have kids, but when I baby-sit for all, I do not charge. Do I have to go to all of these events?

Anonymous / Tiverton, Rhode Island

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