>At my sister-in-law’s home on New Year’s Eve, we were shocked to see her husband “John” carrying a loaded gun. My sister-in-law was unconcerned: “He always carries it,” she said. They host all the holiday family gatherings, but I don’t want to attend when John is carrying a gun. My husband agrees, but no one else seems to think it’s a problem — including the parents of the 3-year-old John spent most of the night playing with. How do we handle this without alienating ourselves from the family? We cannot have everyone to our house.
G.P. / Haverhill