Dear C.M. - I'M WITH YOU. Tell her you object! There is no way that is unreasonable! The maid of honor and Miss Conduct are the ones being unreasonable. A bachelorette party is no place for a newborn. I would not want to share a room with a new baby, nor should I be expected to. Just because I'm a woman doesn't mean I automatically don't mind your screaming baby next to me while I sleep. Sheesh!

This is easily the most ridiculous advice I've ever seen in this column. NO a baby does not belong at a bachelorette party, if the maid of honor doesn't have child care she should stay home. And if she is asking if anyone objects, she knows it's wrong. CM just tell her as nicely as you can that it is not going to work out. And tell her to think of the bride too, I'm sure she wasn't hoping or expecting to share her bachelorette with a newborn.

I usually agree with you Miss Conduct, but a baby at a bachelorette party?  Are you serious?  Is it okay also for a newborn to go barhopping?  I can't believe this was even a question, of course it's not okay.

Nothing worse than getting a night out from your own kids to have to put up with someone else's...I enjoy my children, but a night out is fun and infrequent for me...and this lady wants to ruin it for everyone.  I attended a bachelorette party when my daughter was 3 months old..I pumped and left my child home with my husband.  Didn't squeeze the car seat into the limo and cart her around while we went to dinner and a couple bars...that would have been irresponsible parenting and rude to the bride an other attendees!

Babies and children do not belong at Bachelorette parties any more than they belong at weddings!  

Um, this is the female wedding party, right? Why is she inviting others? Is her mother coming too? Seriously, no babies/children/dogs/parakeets. Baby needs to stay home and if it is impossible that Little One be separated from Mom, then Mom stays home too. Sometimes when you have kids you miss out on things. Very, very bad advice today.

What is up with mothers today? Your baby is simply not invited or welcomed at every occassion. Do not put well meaning people on the spot by asking them if cutie pie baby can come along. If BFing is the issue, well that is the mother's issue to deal with, not all the attendees of a party. LW should tell the mother that absolutely not is a baby or any other child allowed to come to the party.

I agree with PP's - totally ridiculous that a baby would come to a bachelorette party and lousy advice from MC. For all the reasons listed above, and for one other: This is supposed to be the BRIDE's night. Babies, especially adorable tiny ones, have a way of capturing all the attention regardless of the setting. The mom needs to deal with her separation anxiety, pump some BM so her husband can feed the baby while she's gone and she can bring the pump with her to pump when the baby would feed. I have two small boys and I breast fed them both - I would NEVER have imposed on a group of people in this way.

Another option for the mom - go to the party but don't stay overnight.

I will disagree however about taking a newborn to a wedding - as long as the dad (or someone) can sit in the back of the church/temple/venue ready to race that baby out of there the second he/she starts fussing, newborns are barely noticeable at weddings (a guest had one at mine, it was a non-issue, she slept in her car seat most of the time).

I've been fuming ever since I read this column and am so happy that I'm not the only one who felt MC's advice was off the mark. It's unreasonable to bring a newborn into an adult party and expect the newborn to conform to the expectations of the event ("Precious sleeps very soundly and really won't cause any problems!") and then the adults to conform when surprisingly, the newborn does not. And are these gals going to be locked up in a hotel room for the entire bachelorette party? What about going out for a cocktail? Dancing with abandon in a club? Splurging at a really great restaurant? What happens to the little tyke then? Perhaps it would be best  that if mom needed to bring along the kiddo, that she brought along dad, too, put them in a separate room, and then checked in on them from time to time until the festivities were over. But add a newborn as another guest at a bachelorette party? I don't think that would be fun for anyone, especially the bride-to-be, even the least bridezilla of them, and mostly - the newborn.