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Miss Conduct

A relative burden

When one family member is asked to do too much. Plus, late thank you notes that work.

> After inviting family to a birthday dinner, one relative complained that she had only five days’ notice to cancel other plans. I told her later that I was hurt by her annoyance. She thinks she should be able to say whatever she likes, but I’m not sure honesty should have been the way to go. I was trying to juggle multiple schedules for family members. I’m not quite sure what to do next.

H.F. / Boston

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