> “Howard” is a longtime friend who is like a son to my husband and me. He and “Marilyn” lived together for several years, and we became close to her as well. When they broke up, Howard demanded that we sever our relationship with her and says he’ll cut us out of his life if we don’t. We resent the ultimatum. Does the “family” tie trump the friendship with Marilyn? Would it be different if Howard were real rather than chosen family?
M.K. / Somerville