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Miss Conduct

On over-thanking

Can you express too much gratitude? Plus, whether to contact someone you wronged.

> My sweetheart recently helped out two neighbor families. By way of thanks, one gave him a restaurant gift certificate, the other a lovely arrangement. I would like to send a brief note of thanks, in part to get to know them better, but my sweetheart feels that no more is required. Is there such a thing as over-thanking someone?

J.C. / Amesbury 

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