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Miss Conduct

In-laws on the outs

Must the mother of the bride and mother of the groom be friends? It might actually be best if they’re not.

After my daughter became engaged, I wrote a warm, sincere letter to the parents of my future son-in-law saying how pleased we were and what a fine young man he is. Months later I have not heard a peep, save for my daughter passing along that the mother of the groom (MOG) has been too busy to write back. My daughter feels certain that MOG doesn’t approve of her (I suspect because of religious/cultural differences). My predisposition to be positive and congenial is flickering, and I want to avoid a downward spiral. I would truly appreciate your advice.

P.D. / Auburndale

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