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Dodging a third wheel

A trick for avoiding a friend’s husband (and other unwanted companions). Plus, when advice columnists attack!

I’m going back to a country where I lived for several years. My “best friend” from that time wants to meet up. We have maintained sporadic contact over the years, with only a few visits. I want to, but she said that she will have to bring her husband because he has often asked about me. My time is tight, and I dislike her husband and don’t want to waste a day with him. Should I “suck it up” or cancel the whole thing and blame family obligations? She is alternately devoted to this man, then talks of divorce.

S.B. / Boston

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