My best friend eloped when she was young and has mentioned more than once that she regrets not having had a wedding. So when she announced that she was having a commitment ceremony for her 35th anniversary, I was thrilled. However, she is planning to wear a long white dress with a full train and waist-length veil and invite nearly a hundred guests. She has asked me to be her matron of honor. I feel that this is more appropriate for a twentysomething first-time bride, not a mother in her 50s. I fear she is making a spectacle of herself — and me, too. How do I tell her this? Or am I just being an old wet hen?
D.B. / Acton