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The Weddings Issue

Radically normal

A view from the front lines (a.k.a. the couch) of a same-sex marriage.

EVER SINCE I GOT MARRIED, people want to know: “How’s married life?” This never fails to surprise me. Haven’t they heard? It’s kind of a popular topic in our culture; there is some degree of consensus about the particulars. Take everything every novel, play, film, song, and sitcom has ever had to say about married life — it’s a bit like that.

To be fair to the askers, different people have different reasons for posing that question. From friends and family, it comes as a genuine inquiry about my happiness, which is very thoughtful. From some of my straight friends and acquaintances, it may also be a coded acknowledgment of sociopolitical solidarity, a chummy back pat with a dash of How are you enjoying them apples? — which is also terrific and appreciated.

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