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Miss Conduct

Good etiquette to a ‘T’

The right (and wrong) way to give up a seat on the MBTA. Plus, splitting a hotel tab with a drunk guest.

I am a healthy 18-year-old girl, and I often offer my seat to elderly or disabled people on my bus commute. This morning there were three older men standing near me, two of whom were engrossed in conversation. Should I have offered the seat to the one who looked the oldest? Should I have offered it generally? I’m embarrassed to say that I spent the whole ride thinking about the proper protocol, and by the time I realized that I should just do something, I was already at Alewife. If this happens again, what should I do?

E.E. / Lexington

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