Somebody was hurting Rehma Sabir.
Too late, her tiny bones told the sickening story: compression fractures in her spine; a fracture in her left elbow; two in her left leg. The injuries could have been from two weeks earlier, when the baby was overseas visiting family, or inflicted two months before, when she was being cared for in her family’s Cambridge apartment by her nanny, Aisling McCarthy Brady.
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the baby was malnourished after returning from a trip overseas while in the care of her parents, there is far more to this story. this baby had old injuries not noticed by her parents.
There must dried tears all over your keyboard. Bless your heart.
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Stories like this are the reason why I could never hire a nanny. A good, solid daycare provider is a better solution. Look for daycare centers that are certified by the Massachusetts Department of Early Education and Care, and nationally accredited by The National Association For the Education of Young Children.
Absolutely.
Respectfully, it seems that this particular couple was fast-tracked towards serious wealth, and was in no need of a second income before the child's schooling. Decisions have consequences.
Your incessent use of "mother" when it should be "parents" is antediluvian at best. Further, what diligent parent misses the brusing, the cries of pain, that HAD to accompany the broken bones of a child that is in the early stages of mobility? What neurologically normal child holds food in its mouth for up to an hour? There is so much about this case that prohibits any sort of speculation, but that does point to PARENTS who were at best somewhat inattentive, that the mind boggles.
Yes, Jacoby, always the mother. Thanks for pointing that out.
I just can't understand allowing a child under 3 or 4 yrs. to be anywhere without at least one parent present. I honestly don't mean to judge those of you who are using daycare/nannies for your babies, but I can't wrap my head around it. Is there no way to work around it? I remember all the crap I took from friends & co-workers for being 'cheap' during the baby's formative years while my wife stayed home - or took a night job so we could swap the caregiving. I can't come with a good enough analogy, but what - in anyone's life - is more important than raising your own child yourself? I agree I'm a outside the box on most issues, but somebody give me somthing...please ,.
RIP Rehma
The majority of people will be in strong disagreement with your feelings, but I am one who agrees with you. I don't get it why someone would have a baby and let a stranger care for that child. One of my friends, a carpenter, shared all child rearing (never a nanny) with his wife, who was a nurse. They arranged their schedules so that this was possible. I do think that more people could do this or even have a one-income family - at great financial sacrifice, but I think it is the thing to do.
The author is correct. It isn't 1950 but you wouldn't know that from reading this article. In this century fathers are parents too. I wish at any point in this article you acknowledged that this child had two parents. I guess we haven't progressed that far in the last 60+ years because the author is under the incorrect assummption that only mothers care for their children and fathers are little more than absent sperm donors. Ms. Abraham, please join the rest of us in this century for your next column and please don't go any further down this mother blaming path you've started down.
"Mother blaming path"? That's what you took away from this article? That says more about your own insecurities than anything else.