Globe South Commentary

Etiquette lessons for teens

RE “So you want to be a grown-up?,” Feb. 23: I don’t think this is about helicopter parenting so much as maybe kids growing up with absent parents and having to figure things out by themselves. I’m thinking about the teachers in a central Mass. school that figured out that some of their students didn’t have access to washing machines and they found a solution to help these students regularly clean their clothes. That was sobering to me to read about, because the things I was able to take as a given in my home growing up are not the norm for everyone.

I went to college at a big state u. and even then, encountered kids who didn’t know how to cook for themselves or do laundry. Any class that teaches kids how to be more self-sufficient is great. I don’t see what’s “helicopter” about it.


You’re right about that. Never mind why someone reaches adulthood without social etiquette, just offer some lessons and guidance. Life is different in this era, both parents have to spend most of their time bringing food to the table and are pretty tired from that. Great idea, bringing manners and etiquette to the mainstream.



These skills and more have always been taught in Home Economics/Family and Consumer Sciences courses. Sadly, many of these programs have been eliminated in middle and high schools


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These types of classes should be in the public schools. A kid who grows up without having been taught basic rules of etiquette is at a big disadvantage socially and professionally for life. If a person wants to advance in any professional career, and not be stuck in a back room job, then knowledge of table and other manners is a must. People who grew up learning the rules notice the glaring mistakes and don’t want you around clients.


Thirty five isn’t too old to sign up for the class, right? Asking for a friend.


Maybe there should be a class for the parents on how to parent properly! What parent hasn’t taught their growing child on a regular, daily basis how to do these basic tasks? . . . I do not blame these young adults. How can one be a helicopter parent without sharing basic life skills [with] their children?

From a very proud mom & grandmother,

Diane L. Caruso

Debating the Long Island Bridge


RE “Should Boston rebuild the Long Island Bridge?,” Feb. 23: If you’re not a Boston resident you have no say on this matter: It’s a Boston decision. We don’t get to decide what happens in your towns. The casino got built tight on our border and we had no say as a host community, so Quincy, deal with the 700 cars a day. My neighborhood has to deal with 300,000 a cars a day.


I’m not even sure if this bridge truly makes sense, or if Long Island is the only place we can put the treatment center.

But Councilor Harris’s argument seems disingenuous. He argues finances and infrastructure. But it’s become pretty clear to me from reading news over the past year that Quincy does not want a bridge built at any cost.


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