Back when my husband and I were dating, he would pop in self-help audiocassette tapes to help pass the time on long road trips.
It would get on my nerves. As soon as he began reaching for one of those darn tapes, I would roll my eyes.
He would ignore me and play the tapes. And I would listen, conceding it was worth the time to explore what I really wanted in life and how to get it.
What do you want out of life? Are you happy with the work you do? If you aren’t, what are you doing to change?
I had those questions in mind when selecting the final Color of Money Book Club pick of the year, “Amazing Things Will Happen: A Real-World Guide on Achieving Success & Happiness” by C.C. Chapman (Wiley, hardcover and e-book, $22.95). Chapman is a marketing and business consultant and professional speaker.
At 175 pages, this is a quick read. The advice is dispensed in short chapters that cover where you are right now, where you want to be, how to get where you’re going, and why you should give back once you reach your destination.
“Many people want more money, a new job, or a happier relationship, but they are not willing to put in the time and work to make any of it happen,” Chapman writes. “There are so many get-rich-quick schemes out there that I wanted to create a road map that people could actually use to achieve their dreams successfully.”
As I read Chapman’s book, I thought of Robert Frost’s “The Road Not Taken.” How do you get on the right road? And when you travel down that path, how do you prevent having regrets?
One way Chapman said to put aside regrets is to be a “Passion Hit” — his term to describe people who are able to make a living doing what they love. Chapman has created a website (www.passionhit.tv) that profiles people who have found a way to monetize their passion.
As you travel your road to the life you want, Chapman offers simple tips for the journey. For example, he suggests you go old tech and keep a small notebook to jot down the things you need or want to do.
Whenever you write things down, try this exercise. Consider the things you want to do in the coming year and then choose three words to motivate you to act. One year Chapman’s three words were “simplify,” “focus,” and “attack.”
What would your three words be for 2013? I put “no” on my list because I say “yes” to too many things that distract me from work I want to do.
“This is a helpful exercise that will give you a guide for the year ahead and where you want to go next in life,” he says.