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Love Letters

Should she leave her relationship for a past flame?

Q. Three years ago, while on a business trip, I met a very interesting man. I will call him man #1. He was always exceptionally kind to me, brilliant, funny, and extremely good-looking. Though there was some distance between us, we texted constantly all day, and I went to visit him several times. However, there were a few things in our way. The main one being he was younger, still in college, and wasn’t able to move to be with me for varying reasons. Long story short, he broke up with me. He said he felt incapable of having a relationship at the time. We had a very close platonic friendship after that.

Soon after that relationship ended, I began talking online with someone I had admired since my childhood. I would call him a childhood hero of mine. We hit it off exceptionally well, having a great deal in common and excellent communication. Again, there was a distance involved, but after I visited him several times, he took the leap and moved in with me and my young child.

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