Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for more than a year. We live together and are happy except for one problem: He has never taken his shirt off in front of me. He used to be heavy when he was younger and despite having lost about 70 pounds since then, he says he still has body-image issues. He doesn’t exactly have a six-pack but he’s certainly not overweight, and even if he was, it wouldn’t change my opinion of him. I’ve tried taking off his shirt in the dark and he will never let me. He even showers and changes with the door locked. In contrast, I am comfortable in my birthday suit because I know he loves me for who I am. In case you’re wondering, I’m petite but by no means a fitness nut.
We are still intimate regularly — with clothing modifications — but it feels like something is missing. To be honest, knowing that he is not completely comfortable with me kind of kills the mood for me sometimes.