Jon Birger knows why you don’t have a boyfriend


During Jon Birger’s time working as a writer for Fortune and Money, he began to notice that many of his co-workers were single females looking for commitment. They were attractive, talented, and, in many cases, partnerless.

“I couldn’t help but notice but most of the guys were dorks like me, whereas the women had a lot more objectively going for them dating-wise . . . and they were unhappily single. It seemed to be this weird disparity between how easy it was for the guys and how hard it was for women.”

Birger wanted to figure out why this was the case, so like a good business journalist, he looked to the numbers.


What he found was that there were far more college-educated women than men. He believes that’s what’s throwing off the dating stats.

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“College grads are more likely to want to marry other college grads,” he said, of one of the big themes in his new book, “Date-onomics: How Dating Became a Lopsided Numbers Game.”

Birger, who was raised around Newton and Brookline, will talk about the book at C Space on Congress Street on Wednesday night. He’ll be joined by Ken Deckinger, cofounder of the dating app Jess, Meet Ken. The event is cosponsored by the Boston Young Professionals Association.

Birger said he’ll give the audience some dating tips, including one related to the number of male college grads. “My best advice — for online dating — uncheck the college grad box. Because obviously a college degree does not make you a better wife or a better husband.”

He’ll also talk about where Boston fits into the national dating scene, especially at colleges. The gender disparity is greatest at Boston University, which he says is 62 percent female. That means there are three women for every two men.