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Dinner With Cupid

Scientific method

Will these daters bond over biology?

James Neiswender and Margaret Mayo.

JAMES NEISWENDER > 27

Graduate student

WHAT MAKES HIM A CATCH? I have a great career outlook as a scientist studying cancer biology.

HIS HOBBIES Playing a pickup game of Frisbee or soccer

MARGARET MAYO > 25

Manufacturing technician

HER HOBBIES I am very interested in science.

HER IDEAL MATE He would be a leading cancer researcher.

7 P.M. LO CONTE’S, NORTH END

> HYPOTHESIS

JAMES It had been a long time since I had been on a date.

MARGARET We were both early.

JAMES I arrived about 10 minutes early and she was already there. . . . The hostess showed me to our table and we shook hands.

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MARGARET He seemed a little nervous.

JAMES She seemed very ready for the date but not exactly relaxed.

> OBSERVATION

MARGARET He was tall, had light hair, and was well dressed.

JAMES She was thin, very pretty, and had beautiful eyes.

MARGARET I was doing my best to be friendly in hopes of making him more at ease.

JAMES We talked a little about our careers and where we’re from.

MARGARET We talked about our mutual interest in science and how much we liked Italian food.

JAMES We had quite a few shared interests, [and] the food was great.

MARGARET We talked a lot about his research and our overseas experiences. . . . We are both interested in scientific research and both spent two years in a Third World country.

JAMES We both play ultimate Frisbee. We had a lot in common.

MARGARET I felt very comfortable.

JAMES It got less comfortable as the date went on. She just didn’t seem to enjoy herself.

MARGARET The more I learned about the things we had in common, the more I appreciated that.

JAMES She seemed rather serious and wasn’t laughing or smiling much.

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MARGARET I thought he was interesting. . . . After awhile, I got a sense that he wasn’t too into me.

JAMES It was strange to be on a date with a beautiful woman I had so much in common with but absolutely no chemistry with. Something about our personalities didn’t mesh well.

> ANALYSIS

MARGARET I would have been up for continuing.

JAMES When our waiter offered dessert, I looked over to see her reaction and she was clearly done.

MARGARET He seemed like he wanted to get home, so I didn’t suggest anything else.

JAMES We said, “It was nice to meet you.”

MARGARET We went our separate ways.

> POST-MORTEM

JAMES B

MARGARET B

> SECOND DATE?

JAMES Probably not, but I think we could be friends.

MARGARET I enjoyed talking to him, but he didn’t seem all that into me. — Compiled by Katy Rushlau

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