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Listening to millennials

Author Jill Ebstein of Newton focuses on millennials in the third book in her “At My Pace” series.
Author Jill Ebstein of Newton focuses on millennials in the third book in her “At My Pace” series.

For the third installment in her series of “At My Pace” books, Jill Ebstein focused on millennials because she wanted to develop a better understanding of their world view.

Rather than supporting narcissistic and entitled stereotypes, however, the Newton marketing and business consultant says the heartfelt and thoughtful essays by 29 contributors worldwide reveal the authors to be “all in and deeply invested.”

Ebstein published “At My Pace: Ordinary Women Tell Their Extraordinary Stories” in 2015, and “At My Pace: Lessons From Our Mothers” the following year. Her new book, “At My Pace: Twenty-Somethings Finding Their Way,” is divided into three age groups: 21 to 25; 26 to 27; and 28 to 30.

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Several contributors have local roots, such as Newton natives Sam Forman, who now lives in Jamaica Plain; Justine Bunis of Los Angeles; David Offit of Washington, D.C.; Tamar Gaffin-Cahn and Daniel Glasgow, both of Cambridge; and Gavriel Remz and Talya Davidoff, both of New York City. Current Newton residents include Anna Fasman and Natalia Tapia.

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While a few younger potential contributors backed out due to discomfort in revisiting life’s difficulties, according to Ebstein, those in their late 20s seemed driven by a desire to share their hard-earned wisdom. Topics include the process of self-discovery, resiliency despite repeated rejection, commitment to improving physical and emotional health, and living with purpose.

Ebstein, who opens the book with an essay describing her own misadventures in her 20s, suggests that recalling challenging times in younger years may help forge new understanding, empathy, and appreciation of generational differences. In fact, she has received e-mails from two parents of contributors thanking her for the opportunity to better understand an aspect of their child’s life.

Calling this book her “passion project,” Ebstein said she hopes it generates conversation between and within generations, deeper appreciation between children and their parents, more respectful workplaces, and an understanding that anxiety and uncertainty are normal responses while forging the path to one’s future.

“Everybody has a story,” she said. “You just have to be patient enough to hear it.”

For more information, visit atmypacebook.com.

Cindy Cantrell

Cindy Cantrell may be reached at cindycantrell20@gmail.com.