Letters

Letters

There must be a place in DNA for good parenting too

Re “Childhood trauma takes root in your DNA” by Kelly Kasulis (Ideas, Nov. 25): Where are the studies on how thoughtful, compassionate child-rearing also enters one’s epigenetic heritage?

Seeing the consistency and kindness of my grown children’s relationships with their children — a miracle after my own somewhat erratic, if loving, behavior as a parent — gives me hope that parenting practices can change for the better.

My sister says, “You can always tell when someone was gently raised.” Sometimes we need to set aside the bad stuff, as important as that is to understand, in order to consider the good stuff happening in many families. Then we can teach more parents good parenting practices.

Eve Sullivan

Cambridge

The writer is the founder of Parents Forum.