Love Letters

I don’t think I can be friends with this ex

“I felt like she never really liked me in the first place.”

I can’t date someone who is average looking

“I am very concerned about this. I don’t want to be a shallow person.”

I don’t want to do long-distance

But he’s applying for PhD programs elsewhere.

When dog-sitting for an ex gets too complicated

Is it OK to have a date spend the night when you’re dog-sitting at an ex’s house?

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About Love Letters

Love Letters is a daily advice column, a narrative podcast, and a place where people gather to solve each other’s problems. Meredith Goldstein welcomes letters about every kind of love, whether you’re dating, dealing with in-laws, breaking up, or getting back together. Love letters hosts events for its readers several times a year.

Love letters: Season 6

Episode 1
Because I wanted to
Season 6 of the Love Letters podcast is all about “Breaking the Rules.” In episode 1, Meredith tells the story of fellow Globe journalist Kimberly Atkins Stohr, who made an unexpected choice upon getting married.

Episode 2
In love, on duty
Naomi and Chandler had so much in common. And they both also knew that the military frowned upon relationships on base.

Episode 3
So long, Splitsville
Just about every marriage in Ian Coss’s family fell apart –– parents, grandparents, great-grandparents, multiple aunts and uncles. So when Ian fell in love himself, understanding these broken commitments became his way of avoiding the same fate.

Episode 4
98 percent perfect
Just about everybody in a long-term partnership worries they’re not having the right amount of sex. For Katie and her husband, this became a central question in their marriage – until she realized she should just stop asking.

Episode 5
The old college try
When the pandemic hit, Iz was a junior in college with a vibrant social, academic, and romantic life. COVID turned all of that upside down. So Iz decided to try something radical: to forego app dating and look for love IRL.

Episode 6
Dancing with a stranger
Ayesha Mattu was supposed to marry a man whose background mirrored hers: Pakistani, Muslim, and from a certain caste. Then, one night in a dimly lit club, she saw a cute guy dancing. And thus their adventure began.

Episode 7
These rules are meant for breakin’
Meredith sits down with two smart people who have studied relationships and the “rules” that color them.

Episode 8
Red flag parade
When Margaret hit her early 30s, she felt like one of those collectible toys you keep in a box, untouched. She wondered: What was she saving herself for? So, she said yes to a throuple that felt daring and romantic and exhilarating. It turned out to be all of those things and more.

Episode 9
I couldn’t help but wonder
Devin Tomb knows that TV isn’t real life. That “Sex and the City” never explicitly promised her anything. And yet, Devin figured she, too, would have a squad of single women for adventurous nights and opulent brunches well into her 30s. So, what gives?

Episode 10
Never gonna give you up
For the final episode of the season, we collaborate with the podcast This Is Dating to bring you the story of Manny, a thirty-something who’s been kinda sorta breaking a big relationship rule for 11 years and counting. The one that says: You’ll never get over an ex without making a clean break.

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